Holding Back

Many of my main characters are emotionally stunted. Does this mean I am? It's that 'holding back' thing that keeps cropping up. How to stop holding back? Will talking to a counsellor help? Will Biodanza help? I think I'll go with the latter, but then as someone pointed out, okay, physical activities, dance etc, may release something on the outside, but you also need to talk about this. It's the 'not talking' that's the problem. Whatever it is, it keeps cropping up and needs facing/sorting/resolving.