There seem to be a spate of articles around about the menopause. At the moment I seem to be hearing or reading about things that have connections with 'Meeting Coty' as this does.
When I was writing the book I never consciously thought about certain things but amazingly they are there. Take Tessa's mother, Ann Laughlin.
She shows classic signs of the menopause that I didn't know I'd put in never mind that they are symptoms.
She hides herself away from the children.
I didn't realise that when oestrogen levels go down and women stop menstruating, then the 'caring gene' goes because, not having young children (though many women may) it is not deemed necessary. Now this is going back in time because many women now do have their children later in life. So, it's unfortunate.
Are our genes taking care of us through the stages in our lives?
We need to be caring to bring up children.
In general at the stage of the menopause, children have become adults and can take care of themselves, so the mother is now free to do what she wants. By taking the 'caring gene' away, she can concentrate, without forcing herself, on herself.
On the other hand, women of this age now often find that an elderly relative needs caring for so this 'caring gene' would be very handy to retain, but nature takes it away. Bit of a dilemma there then. Forced to care.
But, going back to 'Meeting Coty' Ann shows all the signs of the Menopause, even more in 'Sweet Scent of Success.' Yes, this is the new title. Think I'll stick with this, though must google it to see if it's been used before. Next job.
Back to Ann and the menopause. I keep digressing. Is this a sign? In 'Meeting Coty' she hates being with the children, has no time for them, yearns to be back in Jerez, free to do what she wants: sing. In Sweet Scent of Success that is exactly what she's doing. So, when Tessa turns up for a visit, she is not exactly happy.